Time Mis-Management

Anyone else finding it hard to stay on top of everything important in your life? In addition to trying (not hard enough) to promote a book and write a blog, we have a side business selling antiques and collectibles. Despite my fervent desires, these things do not happen by themselves. The time required to make any of these successful comes after working a full-time job and being a husband and father, which encompasses meeting the needs of my family and such glamorous duties as grocery shopping and doing the dishes. On top of that, the first time I wrote this paragraph I completely failed to mention the importance of spiritual growth through prayer, study and service. How can anyone find adequate time for some of these things, much less all of them, especially now that The Defenders is out on Netflix?

I don’t want to bore anyone with a post about having a finite number of non-sleeping hours in a week and having to be wise in our choices of how to use them, so I’ll just ask the question – how do you do it? How do you make time for what’s important in your life?

Author: Leadership In Doubt

Just another struggling leader, husband, father, writer trying to find his voice and offer something to the world around me.

2 thoughts on “Time Mis-Management”

  1. What I think is really important often isn’t. And sometimes it temporarily switches places with other things. I am always looking for efficiencies. Then I measure how efficient they will be by my desire and known preferences in how I approach work/hobbies. Today, for example, I am having the groceries picked up at the curbside, instead of going in to shop for them. I am band-aiding various problems instead of fixing the root cause because they are only important enough to interfere with more important things.

    It is easy to say that the wisest choice is to make time for your family, but that’s not realistic and a lofty goal that often falls short because it’s a 50/50 equation of investment of time by you and others. It is easy to beat oneself up all day long. Given the responsibilities of a family man, setting expectations for slowly building/creating/making the time is critical for me. That guy who recently was profiled on CNET for building the ultimate home theatre spent four years doing it. The room was in a constant state of disarray, but he slowly made progress and did it on his budget. Along the way, technology changed. Some pieces became significantly cheaper, yet better than when he started on Day 1. He is a great example of waiting for the pay off and that the “important” things to us take small chunks of time. I have a similar project going on in my own home. For five years I’ve been building a worldclass HA system. One ebay piece at a time. After my first year of working on it and feeling disappointed, I decided doing the long-game was the best way to go. I am a firm believer in that no project is ever really finished. We just decide eventually that it’s importance varies at various times and for various reasons.


    1. Your final comment hit home for me Jeff, reminding me of the process of writing my book, which consisted of many long periods of inactivity, punctuated by short bursts of creativity and effort. There were days I was desperate to finish because I imagined a future in which speaking & writing was my full-time gig, making it possible for me to leave behind a job I no longer enjoyed. But far too often comfort and satisfaction with the status quo ruled the day, and I was content to wait until inspiration struck to pick the manuscript back up. I find the same holds true today with blogging and other activities related to promoting the book – importance varies.


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